Last week, we reflected on the signs of mental wellbeing – what it looks like, feels like, and how it shows up both outwardly and inwardly. This week, let’s consider something a little less obvious but just as important: the language we use to talk about ourselves.

Here’s the thing: words shape worlds. 

Words influence how we make sense of our experiences, how we relate to others, and how we view ourselves. And when it comes to mental health, the words we use carry weight.

Naming matters

Many of us grow up without the vocabulary to name our emotional experiences. We learn to say that we are “fine” when we may be anything but, or to label any discomfort as “stress” without understanding what exactly it is that we are feeling. 

But when we do begin to name emotions more precisely—sadness, guilt, envy, disappointment, loneliness—we start to understand ourselves a little better.

Being able to say “I feel anxious” instead of “something’s wrong with me” is not just semantics; it is self-awareness. It is emotional literacy. And, ofter, it is the first step toward healing.

The more accurately we can name what we feel, the more likely we are to respond to ourselves with care rather than confusion or criticism.

Common errors

How often have you heard (or said) something like:

• “I’m so OCD about my desk.”
  
• “She’s totally bipolar today.”
  
• “This weather is depressing.”

These phrases are often said casually, without any bad intent. In fact, many of us have grown up hearing them so often that they’ve become part of everyday language. It’s understandable; language is learned socially, and sometimes we echo what we’ve heard without realizing the deeper implications.

Still, as we become more aware of mental health, it’s worth pausing to consider how these expressions might reinforce misunderstandings or stigma. When diagnostic terms are used metaphorically or flippantly, they can unintentionally minimize the experiences of those who live with depression or OCD..

This does not mean that we need to speak perfectly or never make a mistake. And it certainly doesn’t mean we should be walking on eggshells. 

Instead, it is an invitation to be curious and intentional about our words—especially when we talk about mental health. A little mindfulness can go a long way in creating a culture of respect, empathy, and inclusion.

Self-Talk

Sometimes, the most damaging language isn’t spoken out loud—it’s the voice in our own head.

Pay attention to your inner dialogue. Is it kind? Is it fair? Would you say those same things to a best friend?

Phrases like “I’m such a mess”, “I shouldn’t feel this way”, or “What’s wrong with me?” might seem harmless, but over time, they can shape a story of unworthiness. 

Instead, try replacing them with gentler language:

• “I’m having a hard time right now” instead of “This should be easy for me!”.
  
• “This feeling is valid, even if I don’t fully understand it” instead of “I’m never going to be focused”.
  

“I’m doing my best, and that’s enough for today” instead of “Of course, I failed, I always do!”

Language as a bridge

Words also help us connect. When we are able to express ourselves clearly, we give others a chance to respond with support rather than guessing or misinterpreting. 

Saying “I’m overwhelmed” or “I’m feeling disconnected” opens the door to compassion—both from others and toward ourselves.

Even small shifts in language can change the quality of our relationships. Imagine the difference between saying:

• “You always ignore me” instead of “I feel hurt when I don’t feel heard.”
  

“I’m fine” instead of “I’m not okay, but I don’t know how to talk about it yet.”

A quiet invitation

This week, consider paying attention to the words you use—especially when it comes to yourself, your emotions, and the people around you.

You might ask:

• Am I using language that honors the complexity of what I’m feeling?
  
• Are there phrases that I use out of habit that might need to be replaced?
  
• What would it feel like to speak to myself with more patience and clarity?
  

Mental health isn’t just shaped by diagnosis or circumstance—it’s also shaped by how we talk about it. And by choosing our words with care, we begin to build a culture where people feel safe to speak, be seen, and be supported.

Until next week—take care!